Guilt. A recurring theme this week for me and the clients I work with.
What is so interesting is how this one (powerful) emotion impacts everything in its path.
The work you are currently doing (or not doing), the reactions to people/situations you are dealing with, the decisions you are facing, not to mention the harsh internal dialogue going on in your head!
The verbal and non verbal abuse you put yourself through, from the negative self-talk to the less than healthy food or drink choices that seem to be calling you to indulge in, can be more damaging than the actions themselves!
I have been at this place more times than I care to mention and have personally experienced the devastating effects it has on my physical and emotional well being. Not fun!
So, how do we move past these setbacks?
Understanding that the lifespan of an emotion lasts about 90 seconds and that WE are responsible for perpetuating the lifespan of that emotion with our thoughts and feelings is important to note here.
So, how can we shift that focus and stop that repeating cycle of thought-feeling-emotion (guilt) from driving us to do all sort of unmentionable actions?
Well, do you remember when you were in school and you needed to have your parents sign a permission slip to go on the school trip? It was a big deal to get that slip signed because that was the one thing that separated you from going on that field trip with all your friends or staying at school and doing homework by yourself.
That Permission Slip still has the same powerful impact, so give yourself permission! Permission to fail, to overeat, to do whatever it is that has created this guilt so that you can move on!
I present you with a challenge: instead of beating yourself up for something you know you might regret, give yourself permission to do it.
Give it a try, fill out your Permission Slip — date it, sign it and post it somewhere you can see it and see how it makes you feel.
Move beyond the guilt and the associated actions that beat you down and keep you from moving forward.
How did it make you feel? Did it make a difference? We’d love to know how it went, so let us know!